I hope not.
Children know exactly where they are going. That is until some well-meaning adult misdirects them on what they can and cannot do. These well-meaning adults are nine times out of ten loving parents. This loving advice, done as “wisdom” comes from their own beliefs about what they believe is possible.
Unlike adults, children have a way of seeing possibility in everything. They aren’t tainted with all the reasons why they cannot do something. In fact, Jesus commands us to have “child-like faith.” This is the kind of faith that will enable you to take an idea, get it in your mind, and make it a reality despite what your senses tell you, you can or cannot do.
But if you constantly tell your child, “You can’t” or “You Shouldn’t”, you implant a virus into the handwriting of their subconscious. This bug of doubt or disbelief will guide all of their decisions in life. They will shy away from amazing opportunities that can change their life because they’ll hear you in the background saying, “You shouldn’t, “or “Get a good safe job.”
How does this happen? You pass down rules, folklore or ideas that you inherited from your parents which were passed down from their parents. Unfortunately, you don't realize that you are passing down limiting beliefs to your child. Most parents won't realize it until their child becomes an adult and the intensity of their fears surface as self-doubt, hesitation, and demotivation.
I’m certain that parents, teachers or mentors don’t do this on purpose. We all believe that we’re doing our part to save the child from heartbreak or future failures but, many times we are unconscious that we are disrupting their vision, casting doubt upon their creative brilliance and placing barriers which will slow down their ability to explore their authenticity.
We tell kids anything is possible but when they surpass our predetermined boundaries we choose to uphold boundaries of self-limitation, making them feel bad for stretching their mind to new possibilities.
Think of all the celebrities who dedicate their awards to some teacher in the fifth grade who told them they’ll never make it. Think of all the adults who meander through life unfulfilled, lacking drive or purpose. Why? They wanted to play video games designed for them but some adult argued, “That’s not a real job.” Or the girl who wanted to play baseball but that, of course, isn’t for girls. (Sense the sarcasm)
You never know who your child will become.
You never know what’s inside a person. There are genes, DNA codes, and absolutely beautiful talents stored inside all of us that are activated at the right time.
Yes! There are times when we can see a child’s potential in an area, but many times we can’t see it because our eyes are wedded to collective conditioning: ideas and expressions picked up from society, that keeps us locked into the matrix of smallness.
When we misdirect children off their divine path, we are conspirators in the havoc that they’ll cause on humanity because they’re on a false path. A path they were never intended to travel, but because you told them that they couldn't do what they truly desired (because it made you uncomfortable, fearful or downright uncertain) you forced your child to submit to a reality that’s not theirs - unhappiness.
So be careful,
Your belief in limitation just might be affecting your child.
But, there’s hope.
When you start regaining your creativity and realizing your true self, you’ll empower your child to follow their true inclinations.
Once you get a taste of what it feels like to discover your calling: your life’s task, you’ll experience an inner spark that only a few have felt. We admire them for their bravery. Call them geniuses. But they simply connected with their inner source. They were fearless. They got crystal clear on their call that was with them and first expressed in childhood and began their journey towards expressing it.
Remember, you are a once-in-a-lifetime phenomenon. Embrace your genetic mark of brilliance that will never be repeated. Get support here. When you do, you model for your child the unlimited possibilities that exist. You will no longer defend limitation. You will no longer play small.
You will live in the magnitude of achievability. This is what we want to pass down to children. This is real education.
One final note: Teach your child the importance of living out their call. Teach them they don’t have to take on anyone else’s belief system, especially if it dishonors their call.
Ms. Queenie is the founder of the School for Brilliant Thinkers and the acclaimed program: MamaBeBrilliant which helps moms realize their creativity and regain their true selves. Click here to access your FREE “Visioning Conversation” or Call 1-866-495-7107 schedule an appointment today.
Mrs.Queenie Johnson, M.A.
Brilliant Mama, Let's Build Your Brand, Business & Brilliant Child
I'm a Celebrity Family Education Consultant, Personal Brand Strategist and the brains behind and Founder of The School of Brilliant Thinkers. I believe that by helping mompreneurs (like you) unfold their brilliance, their children will have an impeccable model for what's possible in their futures. Mama Be Brilliant is our signature program to help moms market their brilliance + amplify their brand presence in the marketplace.
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